General rules.
Second Life is, generally speaking, very sex-positive and open-minded. There is really just one taboo, the one we all agree on: No kids. However, there are content ratings: General, Moderate, and Adult. While Moderate areas are good for your house and whatever you’d do in private with a committed partner(s), it requires an Adult-rated sim to do stuff out in the open with adult-rated adverts blasted all over your venue. (Although very big adverts are not appreciated anywhere, even on Zindra.) Second Life adult areas can get pretty wild in themes, and you should spend some time to find the exact right kink for you.
Second Life does not allow minors under 16 years old to join the platform AT ALL, and 16-17-year-olds are only allowed in Moderate areas. In my years on Second Life, I have encountered ONE person I suspected not to be quite of age, so it’s not very common to find anyone under 25. Ironically, given that Second Life is a little “childish,” it doesn’t attract people who still have to consciously “act adult” to feel like one. :p Once you can buy a Barbie doll or a train kit without feeling like a child… You’re old enough. 😉
There is such a thing as good and bad SL sex.
Although nothing beats natural chemistry that allows for all kinds of noob mistakes, sadly or gladly, depending on your perspective, there is such a thing as good and bad sex on Second Life, too. There is a learning curve, so you can actually become technically good at it – but on the other hand, understandably, you may struggle at first. (Understanding the basics of how to animate and adjust animation positions is the first key.)
If you don’t care for the whole animation thing and stuff, don’t do it. It’s better you don’t do the animation part and only talk about sex (which is more than fine) than to do it half-heartedly with a CACACA: Crappy attitude, crappy avatar, and crappy animations.
SL sex is FAR from intuitive. 😀 You actually have to become good at it to make it pleasurable. You add a new tool, and your experience flies out the window. :p You stick to your old toys, and you’re fast bored.
HERE ARE A FEW TIPS:
SEX OUTFITS are your sex life savers!
When things get heated, you don’t 
want to be fumbling looking for your cock or vag HUDs and outfits and alpha layer HUDs in your inventory while hovering in the air in a weird half-sitting pose because your Animation Overrides are still on. Therefore, have an outfit saved as “Sex ready” and perhaps name it #Sex Ready, so you’ll find it in a heartbeat at the top of your Outfits Inventory. In it, store your avatar naked (or in whatever you wear for these things), with all the HUDs (control panels) you need to make a fast transition from clothed to nude: your genital HUD, and your mesh avatar alpha cutter, so you can fast “show all” skin parts. Take some time to make your avatar ready for action, and save the whole thing as an outfit.
Practice switching to nude fast. You know why. 😉
RESTRICTED LOVE VIEWER (RLV)
Nothing here happens by accident. For instance, there’s such a thing as RLV, Restricted Love Viewer, meaning that you take part in BDSM/abduction/forced sex role play, but to make yourself available for forcing takes a freak ton of effort on the victim’s part.
It is good to know, too, that if you’re able to grab a girl (or a guy, for that matter) for sex by using RLV, they’ve consented to it, and you don’t have to ask. The RLV relay can be configured to “off,” “ask,” or “auto-accept,” which means that you CAN’T technically do it to anyone without their permission.
I personally have my RLV stuff configured, and it wasn’t freaking easy. Still, usually, I have to advise the kidnapper on how to ‘force’ me, which is not ideal. ;p Hence, check the rest of this topic on ‘functions.’ (If you’re into this sort of thing, ask someone (like me) in a relevant adult group to practice the technical aspects with you. Troubleshooting can also lead to all kinds of situations… :p )
However, ONE THING I would check. The RLV typically doesn’t check for the sexual orientation of the participants. Therefore, if you are a nice assaulter, you’ll check the person’s profile for clues about whether they’re gay, bi, or straight before you grab them, although the location you find them on will give you a clue, too.
By the way, having RLV objects for your own convenience won’t make you grabbable, either. Things like object locks won’t work for anything, but they just ensure you won’t accidentally remove your hair or body, maybe when you change outfits. (As long as you have RLV on). (You may want to check your fashion collars, however; they may have an RLV relay without you realizing, but they’re still hard to make function as intended just by wearing them.)
A TRAINING PARTNER
You may be curious about how the other side lives, as in, what the opposite gender partner has to go through when they’re having Second Life sex. You might want to try using a cock/vagina menu, navigating Use Me -tools, or Mama Alpha; how does RLV-gear work for the other partner, let alone whether or not your collar remote actually works…
All of that stuff could be tested and tried out with an alternative avatar (alt) that you log in with using another computer or an instance of Fire Storm. (You can run two copies of the viewers simultaneously and be logged in on two accounts if your network and computer can handle the load. For this purpose, if you can run SL on a crowded sim without crashing, you should be well able to set up a monogamous test session. :p)
This will help you help an actual playmate if they are struggling with their functions during play. You might want to grab demos of popular toys if you’re curious and see what they look like for the other party.
There is a lot of variety to get into.
There is so much stuff and nuance on Second Sex Life to play with that there’s no need for anyone to go along with anything they don’t feel interested in. Just find another niche or start your own venue for whatever you’re into.
A lot of people are into role-play (RP) in various scenarios. Obviously, given the platform, it’s no surprise.
There are several levels of it: Pretending to be you but not where you are and not exactly in the right body, using animations as a visual while you have a sexy discussion somewhat unrelated, while not minding too much what happens with the avatars, and perhaps using the animations somewhat as a discussion point.
Emoting
Emoting means adding to the playing animations by typing out the feelings and thoughts or intents of your character or person into the chat with the person you’re playing with. Technically, there’s a code used with punctuation:
[1]Inform real world situation, like the phone ringing, technical issues. Basically distractions and annoyances you need to mention but don’t want to.
(Talk about real life and what you’re doing in real life related to play… Often, good stuff but unrelated to the scenario visible on the screen.)
Without punctuation, you say things normally… (Do I make sense?) As in whatever you’d say in a normal chat, whether part of the role play or not. It simply makes sense to “just say it” without added punctuation like this.
/me sighs: “I am a bit confused now myself.” Would write in italics: Sebs sighs: “I am a bit confused now myself.”
An example:
Sebs: Hi there, handsome.
Hot Dude: Hey yourself.
/me looks at him with a wink in her eye.
(will write
Sebs looks at him with a wink in her eye.
)
Sebs: (Will have to close the door, wink, wink.)
Hot Dude: [2]Hey I’m crashing, I’ll be right back.
Sebs: [3]Just my luck. See you soon.
Anything you type after /me should be written in the third person, describing what your avatar is currently doing or feeling.
Organized role-play with scripts
Taking part in organized role-play sessions with full-blown scripts and characters involved would be for the next level up. Role play to this level is rather rare, but if you’re into it, you can find company for certain.
Now, go out there and identify as a digisexual Second Life avatar and demand respect. :p
