Have you ever been accused of being a unicorn hunter when dating? This might be your chance to get away from people who see your standards as something inconvenient standing in the way of their marriage plans to you.
The name ZEN METAL Real Life comes from the idea that we are actually looking for the perfect people to transform our real life with and for. This is not a role-playing game, but us being ourselves somewhere where we’re currently not at.
Commitment Phobics and Commitment-Obsessed People
There is another type of Unicorn Hunter for sure. We kinda want to get away from THOSE PEOPLE. These are people who hold low or no standards for themselves but expect to be greeted as an equal option to people who hold high standards in relationships for themselves, too, not only for their partner.
People like this are hunting for nice people who believe inclusivity principles have to be applied to their bedroom, too, but as a life coach, I’m saying stop right there! If there is an exclusive zone in your life, your intimate relationships should definitely be exclusive as fuck – pun intended.
I criticize people who want to lower other people’s relationship expectations so that they, or someone like them, can meet those requirements to validate themselves as people who should mind their own business. It’s not THEIR problem if the Unicorn Hunter(s) wind up alone, nor is it the Unicorn Hunter’s problem if they can’t find a mate with low enough expectations for them to meet.
These people often blame people with standards of being commitment-phobic when, in fact, they, themselves, are connection-phobic. They want a boost in social status, a relationship without the possibility of messing it up by being too real in it: Commit to me now, and if you ever want to leave me for me being a disappointment to you, it’ll be your fault. This is used as a weapon across the board on everyone from commitment-phobic, avoidant attachment style people all the way to people with a secure attachment style.
They won’t be polishing their halos on my sims.
Unicorn hunting for self-awareness and community support for it
The ZEN METAL Real Life aims to create more self-awareness in relationships, a higher self-confidence in holding true to one’s own needs in relationships, and in creating a social support system among those who respect your need to save yourself for something and someone better for you than currently available. We may date “in the meanwhile” without holding each other to a commitment or expectation for a future commitment.
It is not up to the other person to decide when they are good enough for you. If they cannot give to you what you give to them, it is up to you to decide whether that is important or not… Not theirs.
ZEN METAL Real Life is a safe zone for those with high standards.
